Yesterday's meeting

We went and met with our social worker again yesterday. It's been a little bumpy because we sort of have different ideas of how to approach all of this than she does. She told us to discuss things related to the failed match for 20 minutes each day - and I appreciate what she was trying to do with that to have us connect more with each other and be more aware of each others needs and we did the best we could with that but there were times when it felt so forced. And we talked about that before we went back to meet with her and we agreed between us that it didn't have to happen every single day but if either of us needed to talk something out that we could. We thought that would be ok and we told her and she said - well if you want to move on in this program you are going to have to do these things - wow - I thought they could be a little bit more flexilbe with us on this. And as the meeting went on I think we did show her our willingness to do what needs to be done but that we need a bit of flexibility. She is requiring us to find a licensed counceler to meet for some short term marriage counceling. That was tough to hear at first but I think we both understand that we can work on some things now so that we are better parents when the time comes. So, now we're going to be checking with both of our work places and seeing if they have programs for free counceling - I'm pretty sure one of them should so we don't have to be out a bunch of extra money. I just pray we can find someone that we can both feel comfortable with and trust.