Meeting with our social worker

I want to write a bit more about how our meeting with our sw went this past Thursday - my husband really didn't want to be there - he's been wanting to stuff his feelings but she's going to have us meet with her once a week for a while to help us grieve the loss - she said the emotions will be very similar to a miscarriage - which it does sort of feel like minus the physical stuff. She also wants us together to spend 20 minutes a day talking about things and if anything triggered any emotions, things like that and she also gave us this book called Growing up Again - Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children. She said that because dh had so many holes in his childhood and that there are parts that he doesn't remember due to being in so many foster homes that it will be most helpful for him. They call it "uneven parenting" instead of dysfunctional parenting that it's supposed to help people through and to avoid passing on certain parenting mistakes from our childhoods she thinks it will be helpful for us. And she wants us to go through each chapter together and we'll talk about that when we meet with her each week so we're going to have to do it. I left the meeting sort of hopeless just becaues dh didn't open up all that much and just seemed to want to avoid everything. But later in the evening he did sit down with me and we talked through things and really seemed to have gotten somewhere so hopefully he'll embrace the process instead of avoiding it. I know our sw said we'd need each other to rely on and she sort of called dh out to start realizing that needed to be worked on in our marriage even before kids. So, for now I don't think they're even going to be presenting us to any families until we get through some of this grieving and with her helping us because she said if we jump right back in and we're matched without properly grieving we'll bring too much fear into the match and it won't be a good thing. So, as much as we would probably want to have another match quickly it's probably better this way. So, all that to say I am thankful for the extra support we're getting from our agency right now because without it I know we'd be struggling all on our own because other people in general just aren't saying much at all and seem to be avoiding us. Which really feels lonely and sucks because if people don't know what to say I do understand that but at least just treat us like we're normal and not to be avoided or something you know?